Wednesday, September 9, 2009

Show and Tell - Vol 1

I just discovered the Show and Tell thread at Stirrup Queens and Sperm Palace Jesters (which I was just directed to by Maybe Baby?) and thought I would give it a go!

This photo is the last one taken of my husband, his sister (up front) and me prior to our immigration to the US. SIL lives in Liverpool and it was the first time we had ever been to her new home (she and her partner had just bought a new flat). It was only a few days before Christmas and, although the family were going to be spending Christmas in Liverpool at their home, DH and I were not going to be there because our dog couldn't go in the kennel for fear of picking up something that would make her unable to travel. She wouldn't be able to go with us because there were going to be too many unfamiliar people around her.

This was a day that really cemented a relationship for me with my SIL. Because I'm a Christian and from a conservative upbringing, I felt as though my SIL (who has a same-sex partner) felt that I was judgemental of her relationship. I wanted to make sure she understood that, as her brother's wife, I supported her and felt that she was also my sister.

This trip was also my first going around Liverpool, so SIL and her partner took us to a favorite restaurant of theirs. The meal was fantastic and the conversation was amazing. I found out loads of information about my SIL that I had never known. She relayed to DH and I some of her fears about how the family would react to her relationship (everyone already knew about it, but no one had really talked about it) and we reassured her that we were supportive.

The rest of the day was as refreshing and eye-opening as the meal. SIL and DH got reacquainted (they had been close prior to SIL moving off to university, however, they had grown apart during the years she was away) and I got to know SIL and her partner. It was an awesome day. The photo was taken as we were leaving their flat to catch the train back home.

Last year DH and I returned to England for our only visit back since we moved. Our trip was to attend the committment ceremony of SIL and her partner. It was a moving experience for all of us and I'm proud to show off a photo of their big day.


Cassandra said...

The matching hair bows are great! I find it fun to see what couples wear in same-sex weddings: sometimes they coordinate/match and sometimes they go in opposite directions!

Lavender Luz said...

Congratulations on the wedding in your family! They are beautiful on their special day.

Welcome to Show & Tell!

Delenn said...

I love the fact that despite your own idealogy you were able to see your SIL as part of your family. They look very happy.

Thanks for sharing!

WiseGuy said...

The fact that your upbringing is so diverse from your SIL's and yet you have welcomed each others with open arms, is so nice!

Hope the camaraderie continues!

Good Luck!

Kristin said...

Thanks for sharing both these wonderful pictures. Your SIL and her partner look very happy and quite beautiful on their wedding day.

Dora said...

Lovely. They look so happy. That's ALL that matters!

(Oh my! My word verification is actually "sperm.")

Suzy said...

Welcome to show and tell. So glad that you were able to share in the ceremony of your SIL and her partner.

Rachel said...

Thank you for sharing.

Family is family, and we can learn a lot from them, that's for sure. :)

Once A Mother said...

sounds like you and SIL did a lot of bonding that first visit. How wonderful that you were able to form such a closeness despite your differences. thank you for sharing.

Elana Kahn said...

Welcome to Show & Tell! I've always wanted to go to the UK. I'm so glad you had a chance to really get to know your SIL and it sounds like you had a great time, too.

Here from Blogger Bingo (a post that mentions a restaurant).

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