tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-365326280215821855.post9087347539079016194..comments2024-03-06T03:29:47.163-05:00Comments on Wistfulgirl's World: A Moral DilemmaLynnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07920969824307697368noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-365326280215821855.post-53662582210274126682011-03-22T12:43:54.692-04:002011-03-22T12:43:54.692-04:00WOW. I ALWAYS say that if you hold your peace the ...WOW. I ALWAYS say that if you hold your peace the Lord will fight your battles. And there it is. You didnt have to say a single word in anger to them. <br /><br />Personally i dont think you need to reach out to them, because they may actually take it as you gloating, but maybe you dont have to go so far out of your way to avoid them anymore. <br /><br />BTW helo from ICLW #143Birdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11682843160560423503noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-365326280215821855.post-90155263880042584202011-03-21T07:36:19.436-04:002011-03-21T07:36:19.436-04:00I think that T, M and that Mother should learn to ...I think that T, M and that Mother should learn to keep their opinions to themselves, not be so narrow-minded and judgmental and take a good look at themselves. These people, whatever the origins of your relationship, are not supportive friends. You have a lot of generosity of spirit to be concerned about them in their current situation. I doubt that they would return the favor. It's so unfortunate that they couldn't put your happiness above their own moral high ground. Wonderful, loving families can be achieved in all sorts of ways and money, while helpful, is not the be all and end all of parenting. <br /><br />Lisa (ICLW #112)<br />P.S. I'm speaking about fertility support today at the Fertility Focus Telesummit, which is free. I would love you to listen in to my talk and the other 11 speakers this week, either live or to the recordings afterward. You can register through my blog: www.yourgreatlife.typepad.com. Please help spread the word to anyone who is infertile and trying to conceive, or make decisions about treatment.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10139008103387503895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-365326280215821855.post-18204070968378046442011-02-26T22:23:02.325-05:002011-02-26T22:23:02.325-05:00Thank you all for your comments and support. I rea...Thank you all for your comments and support. I really appreciate you all!Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07920969824307697368noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-365326280215821855.post-38486985979394508492011-02-26T15:42:10.092-05:002011-02-26T15:42:10.092-05:00I am just lurking but had to respond. As an infe...I am just lurking but had to respond. As an infertile woman I am offended. Infertility is a medical condition that has nothing to do with God`s desire for you to have or not to have children. <br /><br />As an adoptive mom who had one failed adoption prior to 2 successful adoptions I am livid. Adoption had been a part of family building since the dawn of time. Adoption is an absolute miracle and builds beautiful families.<br /><br />I think all of your feelings are normal. It is HORRIBLE that they are in such a tough situation right now, but I think any of us would feel a bit of poetic justice. <br /><br />I do think they are a family full of mean spirited judging. No matter how your family building resolves they will probably still judge. They will judge your parenting style, the choices you make for your kids etc, etc. <br /><br />I don`t think I would reach out to them. Too much water, each conversation would be avoiding the big elephant in the room. Each conversation would involve you thinking about what you want to say ( and probably them fearing what you are going to say, the words deep down they know they deserve)<br /><br />I would keep them in my thoughts and leave it at that.fuzzandfuzzlethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03384943208016317509noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-365326280215821855.post-5114118877353541462011-02-26T13:21:45.847-05:002011-02-26T13:21:45.847-05:00God does not want people to adopt?!?!? Are they ma...God does not want people to adopt?!?!? Are they mad?!?! Why do they think there are all these children who do not have parents willing (for whatever reason) to raise them?? <br /><br />Nothing offends me as much as bone deep stupidity, and this is a clear case of it.<br /><br />I'm sorry for that innocent child on the way that they are out of jobs, but suffering either breaks you down completely or builds character, and these 2 boneheads sound like they are in dire need of the latter- lets hope that happens.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15553205805046479504noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-365326280215821855.post-60555510046479428942011-02-26T12:09:09.631-05:002011-02-26T12:09:09.631-05:00Honestly, it would be very hard not to feel a bit ...Honestly, it would be very hard not to feel a bit of glee about the situation. Because I know you and I can tell you feel the need to do something, you could reach out and simply say "I'm so sorry you're in this position. It must be hard to lose all that stability with a baby on the way." I think I would make sure I said that in front of his mom too. If you are feeling particularly irksome that day, you can add "But, I'm sure it will be ok because God must have a plan...after all, nothing happens without God having planned it."<br /><br />{{{Hugs}}}Kristinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10791317184998122691noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-365326280215821855.post-10261659303085468662011-02-26T11:54:26.499-05:002011-02-26T11:54:26.499-05:00You were in the right and even a better person for...You were in the right and even a better person for feeling concerned about them! <br /><br />Happy ICLW.<br />APanniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02588291135792126240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-365326280215821855.post-77668095588715982182011-02-26T11:18:30.755-05:002011-02-26T11:18:30.755-05:00As a person of faith, I have serious problems with...As a person of faith, I have serious problems with their theology, and suggest they read the Bible again. There are so many places that speak about the lonely being put in families, and how we are adopted by God as his children. Argh! I despise when people use God as the reason for their bigotry. (sorry for the rant)<br /><br />I would probably not reach out to them, but I would continue to pray for them. There may come a time in the future when their eyes are openned to how hurtful they have been, and they may seek forgiveness, but until then I don't believe you have to subject yourself to their abuse.Mrs. Gamgeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18351339333625358960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-365326280215821855.post-37292104221507990642011-02-26T10:57:26.399-05:002011-02-26T10:57:26.399-05:00Congrats on not beating the mother down. I'm ...Congrats on not beating the mother down. I'm afraid my hubby would have been posting bail for me. <br /><br />Seriously - they are not your friends! Friends do NOT say such horrible hurtful things to you or behind you. When real friends make some blunder you are able to share your hurt with them and they are immediately regretful and sorry. Real friends want only the best for you. I have lost friends throughout the years but I have learned that they are who they are. I can't make them be the friends I want them to be and I have to let them go. IF and adoption are both long, horrible, gut wrenching processes, we have no room for negative people walking with us on this journey. It is natural to feel all the feelings you have, I would just pray for them but keep clear of them. <br /><br />Don't even get me started on the whole God and IF thing. <br /><br />On the positive side, we live close now and we are totally supportive of your journey. Coffee on your next visit? I hear you have an opening for new friends.junebughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16597959014121851131noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-365326280215821855.post-64658687410193657152011-02-26T05:55:11.302-05:002011-02-26T05:55:11.302-05:00As a not overly religious person all these comment...As a not overly religious person all these comments bemused me. Seriously, God wants orphaned, abandoned children to be left on the street? <br /><br />Anyway, back to what do you do now. I'd just let sleeping dogs lie. You made a decision that they weren't people you could be friends with and while what is happening to them is really difficult and they will obviously need support from people, that support will come from family and other friends they have. <br /><br />Don't give yourself a hard time about it.Rebecca Bradleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10194524230109997420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-365326280215821855.post-80327798766102203252011-02-26T02:15:45.827-05:002011-02-26T02:15:45.827-05:00They and the mother are jackasses and what goes ar...They and the mother are jackasses and what goes around comes around. Sorry, but that is how I feel. I suffered losses and IF before having my kiddo's and let me tell you. God DOES want us to be parents!!!!!! You are a very graceful woman because I would have SNAPPED when I heard what the mother said.Christy and Kevinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15701987537731183118noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-365326280215821855.post-56475113027118493912011-02-26T00:02:05.330-05:002011-02-26T00:02:05.330-05:00Hmm toughie i suppose the more graceful answer is ...Hmm toughie i suppose the more graceful answer is to not feel glee but. still, there lack of compassion and judgemental approach has put them right in the firing line. <br />i fail to understand the "gods way" attitude to infertility, really upsets me, surely an all enxompassing God wouldn't create so much pain, Im sure he tries his best to bring hope, love & strength where he can, and tries to help. That's like saying its Gods will that children are abused or murdered or become sick, neither accurate nor acceptable to profess. Not sure how is handle this,in my mind the relationship has deteriorated to a point where its hard to face them so hard to contact. them , maybe just enquire through third partiea how they're doingMs B. Thrifthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07596828734352833478noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-365326280215821855.post-43034106167333411062011-02-25T22:59:49.758-05:002011-02-25T22:59:49.758-05:00What a wench, I am so proud of you for not hurting...What a wench, I am so proud of you for not hurting her. I would have smacked her...probably not but damn near might have. I honestly would not reach out to them. They are not good friends nor are they nice people. I've endured this with a friend and it is a constant battle, in the end, I stopped talking to her. My friend who I posted her blog, I was hurt by her words. Yes, she supports me now but for so long she didn't but I thought she did. People can't understand the beauty of adoption because God hasn't filled their hearts with that kind of love.Jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18141938504286823209noreply@blogger.com